Sunday, August 19, 2012

All For The Sake Of Love


 

 

 

 

 










 

 

  All For The Sake of Love

(a.k.a I Wanna Know What Love Is)


   I Wanna Know What Love Is.  Ever heard that song?  Ironic that it came out in the era that it did.  The exploration of the word happened so long ago in the sixties by the American youth.  Most participants in these movements during this time were young.  They were no older than their early twenties, having many members around eighteen years old.  There were the Flower Children, the Hippies, the Black Hippies, the Beatniks of the previous 50's, folk singers, the whole blues/rock connection, the revolutionaries, Civil Rights Movement, Human Rights Movement, Equal Rights Movement, Grass Roots Movement, Pan African Movement, Southern Christian Leadership Council's rise to prominence, followers of King, followers of Fard and the Honorable Elijah Muhammad, the rise of Malcolm X, the stir of Muhammad Ali, the National Black Panthers, George Jackson, Bobby Seals, Eldridge Cleaver, Angela Davis, etc. and the Zulu Nation (please forgive me if your group was not mentioned-- no disrespect intended).  A lot of this was done for the love of the people.  A lot of this was done to reach out to their brother man.  There was a humanistic explosion in America towards all of the world because those teenagers didn't like what they saw was being done.  They cared about the world in which they were living and wanted to do something about it.  These teenagers thought they could change the world, funny thing about (even if it wasn't exactly how they wanted it)-- they did.  And they did it out of a love for their people.

   You see, Love and Hate had a real mix up, during that time:  It was just like how Radio Raheem depicted it in the Spike Lee's movie, "Do The Right Thing."  President Obama recently awarded Bob Dylan for his humanitarian efforts in music and song, which were done primarily during the sixties.  The act of ordinary artists and ordinary people speaking up concerning the ills of their society is not only heroic, it is a socially responsible act to ask these things from the country in which you live (after all, the forefathers of this nation wrote this type of behavior into the constitution).  There was a lot of folk song writers during the sixties writing about Consciousness, Love and Social Injustice:  Among these;  Bob Dylan, The Mama's and the Papa's, Crosby, Stills, Nash & YoungSimon & Garfunkel, Hippie Groups like Iron Butterfly, Yes, The Yardbirds and their soon to be famous guitarists: Jimmy Page, Eric Clapton, Jeff Beck-- with the group later to become Led Zeppelin from the Yardbirds , The Grateful Dead, Big Brother & The Holding Company (featuring Janis Joplin), The Moody BluesThe Beatles and The Stones.  Brazilian groups like the works of Antonio Carlos Jobim, Brasil '66, Gilberto, Airto, Amur Deodato.  There was Muddy Waters, Chuck Berry, Little Richard, Bo Diddley,  Jimi Hendrix and James Brown.  Their effect brought on the Funkadelics, Sly & The Family Stone, Carlos Santana, Mandrill, Chicago, Blood Sweat & Tears, Three Dog Night.  There was the TemptationsThe Supremes, Marvin Gaye, Nina Simone.  There was Stevie Wonder, Earth, Wind & Fire, Donny Hathaway. They all wrote songs on love and humanity.  They wanted social change.  They all revolutionized music.  They did change the world.

   Though their were substantial numbers, all of society was not active in the protests.  With the rate of success achieve with minimum numbers, could you imagine what could have happened if all of our people would have been involved in our struggle for Freedom, Justice and Equality?  Saladin once said to me, "Civilized means to teach knowledge and wisdom of the human family of the planet Earth.  A lot of times in love, you must go through hell in order find out or achieve what is right."  I would have to agree.  Anyone one who's ever heard, "Where has All The Flowers Gone" by Earth, Wind & Fire as a remake of the Peter, Paul & Mary Tune know exactly what I'm talking about.  The world of the fifties were cruel to a lot of non-white people, with big business imposing their capitalist ideology on the rest of the world.  Civility in the form of humanity was in big demand.  The rest of the world could definitely use a sense of humanity being developed in the West.  The non-Western world was being manhandled.  Black people in urban communities were like an odd cog in a big capitalist machine, being grind'ed down in self-esteem.  Many took to recreational drugs as a sign of relief of being Black in America, while the White media "blames the victims," calling these Blacks "throw-away people."

   A lot of White children of many of America's CEO and corporate owners during the sixties, did not like what their parents were doing in so-called "Third-World" [actually the first world if you check your chronology properly] countries.  So they began to protest against the acts of their parents overseas.  This gave birth to the Flower Power and Hippie Movements (groups/ movements which came after the Beatniks in the 50's).  A lot of these bummy-looking kids you see in those old photos are the children of very rich parents.  And as with most of White parents however, they figured this rebellious behavior was a trend or passing phase on their children's part.  Some of these rich parents decided to disown and/or disinherit their children-- figuring this would bring them back around.  Some did turn back around (they represent the Yuppie class) but many stayed the Hippie course and fought for what they knew in their hearts and minds was right.  Meanwhile, Blacks in the inner cities and south had had enough from the vicious elements within American society, many times sanctioned by law.  The result was protest  on a major scale, against an unjust society; which we today have almost forgot exists.

   As you can see, these were artists and humanitarians fighting against society (not to be confused with the whole of society but significant enough numbers), concerning obvious injustice.  Many where jailed for what they believed.  Many of the protesters in these movements, did these things in hopes for a better world-- or just because it was only proper (right).  Many protesters took up the fight for other people:  Bob Dylan gathered artists and other celebrities, persons to rally and solicited for funds to help defend Hurricane Carter in the Hurricane Carter incident.  There was also the Medgar Evers Civil Rights incident.  And (of course) many of these groups, both Black and White, were jailed because of their protests.  Now don't forget, when you go to jail, you have to pay various legal fees and go to trial.  * Often when you fight for justice and society believes itself to be right, fair or just, you will often receive unjust treatment-- but in order to be successful, you have to be persistent.  You have to be the symbol of what you want to see in the world.  I bring all this up because it is a clear illustration of how the love for the people and humanity dominated the thinking of people during the sixties and early seventies:  Something which has slowly disintegrated in years which followed.

  People got involved, suffered losses for each other, yet still stood firm in the face of adversity-- taking these issues on time and time again.  If you haven't already listened to my selections from the various artists, click on them and listen carefully.  You can see that they were singing from the heart, not being concerned about how much money they would be making for the record, but concerning themselves with how many people they could reach.  In life, "you either stand for something, or you will fall for anything."  "You also have to mind your wants because someone wants your mind."

   Even the President, John F. Kennedy, initially tried to uphold what American society of the time mandates, but he was young himself and the spirit of the era or zeal took him over as well.  Folks like J. Edgar Hoover, of the Federal Bureau of Investigation, and local authorities began to take very immediate counteractions-- in a gallant  attempt to quail this raging fire of youth passion in the sixties versus the injustices of the society.  The crowds also mounted their own type of protest heroics.  A president and an attorney general were lost during this time of social unrest, but we also saw very positive change as a result of it.  Now, were these teenagers and young adults naive or firmly committed to do what it takes to make this world a better place?  You make the call.  Many times, during various protests during the sixties, police officers let dogs loose into crowds of innocent protesters.  Firemen unleashed their powerful hoses on many non-violent crowds:  When Martin Luther King led his non-violent protests, many times they were met with billy clubs by the police and racist actions from other citizens.  Some even died for it, but the job eventually got done-- because the firmly believed what they were doing was right.

   In Saladin's equation of Love, Hell or Right, the key is how committed to your cause you are.  Recognize evil people can be committed also.  Their consistency had to be endured as well.  But within the above equation Saladin presents, the key word is RIGHT-- right being what is appropriate.  In the previous generations, especially in the sixties and seventies-- within Rhythm & Blues music-- there were a lot of songs written about love, appreciation, and reliability.  What people wouldn't normally do, they would do for-- and out of-- love.  By today's standards, these values seems so foolish (but equally to the old, today's generations values seems to be taking them to hell in a hand basket).  As a matter of fact, you seldom hear Love mentioned in current-day lyrics.  It seems as most people today think that such deeds are for suckers.  A whole generation brought about rights for the current generation out of Love and they think it's a set up...  They avoid it because they think you are going to get used.  But most youth rely on their parents to provide their needs nonetheless.  What are they going to do when their parents are no longer able to provide?  Is this what the children think of their parent's efforts: something to take advantage of, then sit back and complain about what didn't come in the package?  As though they themselves have no short comings?  What are these chronic complainers willing to do when they have children?  Certainly less than what their parents did I bet...

   No doubt, this world has gotten colder.  What you put into it, is what you get out of it. There is little trust these days and it seems like every one's a cynic or critic.  Others seem to have so much advice as to what everybody can do.  "How much are they doing?"  "What solutions have they fathered?"  I wonder.  Far less, than they are asking for others to do-- no doubt.  Many times, people will say negative things about others, to take the attention and pressure off of them.  The essence of these types of situations is, "If I am not right, nor is anybody else-- see, let me point out their flaws to you."  And if you are the kind who will "throw up plates of hope and possibilities," they will certainly shoot them all down to convince you that the world is hopeless.  This is also what they'll do when others talk positively about you!  So don't look behind you, because your ass is probably already bitten off, right along with the rest of your back!

  These types are not committed people--- but, rest assured, there's a lot of selfish, ego-centered people in that same lot-- right along with the people who refuse to roll-up their sleeves and give a hand to a righteous cause.  They are not the givers, they are takers, users, and abusers; the stealer' of light, time and glory.  A balanced society needs people who will roll up their sleeves and give a damn!  Because these people are users-- they find it hard to trust others.  No wonder-- they're worried:  They are afraid of being exposed.  They know that everyone reaps what they sow, so their fear is that their deeds shall return back to them one day.  So they remain wary and critical of everyone else-- less they feel that day of penance shall come soon.  How pitiful an existence.  Trust and Loyalty is a very important part of love; without them you have nothing to depend on.  These type of people can never be good for a society or nation because this type of thinking does little to encourage or uplift nor offer anything of steadfastness that one could build a foundation off of.  The Bible states, "They are like the Chaff which the wind driveth away" (a.k.a. flaky people).  Parents, teachers, instructors, religious figures in a righteous society all do their best to encourage and prepare the youth for the future.  That is because children are our promise for the future in any society (which depends on their values, worth, quality and moral fiber; which are all products of Love).  These other type of souls are so self centered, they would never make good parents, because they do not believe in sacrificing their being for the sake of their children or anything else: almost all of their investments are strictly aimed around themselves!  They are unable to provide what they covet the most: love and affection-- because they don't have it themselves.

  They have very little to give because they are trying to keep it all for themselves-- but this is not a love of themselves, this is greed and lust.  This allows people to hoard and take; trying to feed a hungry heart that can hold no love.  SOCIETIES ARE BUILT OFF OF COLLECTIVE CONTRIBUTIONS.  LIBRARIES HOLD THE COLLECTIVE IDEAS OF ALL THE GREAT PEOPLE RECOGNIZED IN THE KNOWN WORLD.  BUT A  SOCIETY NEEDS FOR ITS MEMBERS TO BELONG TO FAMILIES AND HAVE CHILDREN TO ENSURE SOCIETY'S CONTINUANCE.  SOCIETIES NEED SOCIAL HARMONY BETWEEN FAMILY MEMBERS, TO SERVE AS AN EXAMPLE--OTHER WISE IT WILL HAVE ITS HAND TIED IN LAW ENFORCEMENT, IMPRISONMENT AND CORRECTIVE MEASURES LIKE JAIL OR THERAPYLove should be reciprocal (you give and I give).  Who wants to engage in a situation where you do all the work and the other is unwilling to return the favor?  How fair is that?  LOVE IS ALL ABOUT SHARING.   As tight as you hold onto what you got, you cannot get much in a clenched fist now can you?


     The word for these type of ego-centric people is called Narcissistic.  This is the dysfunctional state of many Americans today.  These are the finest looking women who spend so much time on their outward appearance, making up their fake impressions using make-up in the mirror-- having little time for their children, family, or helping their friends.  These are the guys who will "run-up in" several females and impregnate them all (with a total disregard for them as a person), yet want someone around for them who cares for them only, when they get older-- saying, "i just don't want to get to be forty, be alone, and live a life "full of regrets,"   Yet never giving enough of themselves into the project at hand to establish meaningful relationships.   They can't give what they don't have.  They cannot be fathers because they have not educated themselves to be that responsible, or learn to love themselves: The result: more lost children, fiend-ing for love their parents haven't given-- like crack-babies.  These are the women who are with a guy,  but have their eyes on everything else but-- what his direction is.  The Narcissist wants your money, your time, your fame, or celebrity status and your connections-- but they don't love you.  They like the attention you bring.  You might say, "Why choose me when it is clear to see you don't trust what I propose?"  No the Narcissist doesn't:  They trust your commitment to a cause, your sincere heart-- but the Narcissist is gifted with the powers of observation and assessment--  to see where having you around as  a "stepping stone" can be useful for something else.  But they don't believe in Love (due to lack of empathy), because they don't really love themselves (due to a unconscious deficits in self-esteem) [a.k.a. everything must revolve around me].

   The Narcissist expects people to do for them and when they do, it is not appreciated.  You can never do enough.  It is not appreciated, because they were never taught to care for others.  They were neglected of the true love but given a substitute of indulgence, like "Sweet & Low-- so they crave the sweetness in life but can't return the favor.  They were given, but they never "got" on their own nor were they given what really counts.  The Narcissist never really struggled for things, for if they did-- they would appreciate what they were given.  Others saw the need and provided, but the Narcissist was too focused on what they didn't get to see what they have-- until they lose it all for their lack of concern.


   I think that The Lost of Love happened when we all started to buy into the concept of not greeting each other on the street.  Sure it started out innocently enough: "If you won't greet me then I won't reach out to you."  We passed that lack of concern along, beating each other to the punch and pretty soon-- you have people not reaching out for fear of rejection or being seen as weak.  Total populations of urban Americans not concerning themselves with how others are doing, but fearful of being taken (birth of mistrust).  Yet when it comes to our needs being fulfilled in relationships, we still expect a lot of that: Arrangements; a.k.a. "Let's make a deal" (a la carte)...  How could we believe one social element would not impact on the other?

   Did we really realize what we were losing in the process?
At least, we could assess where a person was coming from when they responded.  Now we walk by each other, not sure of where the other is coming from or what that means for us-- in a time where expectations are high and resources are few.  Do we really know where this lack of concern is going to take us?

  This type of indifferent behavior and custom, makes for an environment where it is easier to believe everyone is conspiring against you, since few are even extending themselves with a greeting.  It is easier to think people don't mean well for you under those conditions.  That song, Reach out and Touch by Diana Ross and the Supremes was a very popular tune, in its day.  Sounds sappy now doesn't it.  That's because we have sunk that far into cynicism, sarcasms and the power of the "dis" (disrespect/disregard): We have lost faith in the world to correct it's errors and put itself back on track-- but how much have you reached out and touched or gave encouragement to someone who's lost their way?

If you ever given any thought to your childhood, you'd realize without love you wouldn't be here.  As a baby, you are extremely vulnerable.  Any wild beast could devour you.  Just think of baby kittens around dogs, baby impalas around lions, or a serpent around bird eggs, and I think you'd get the picture.   You cannot protect yourself, you need the protection of your parents-- who sacrifice many things for the sake of their children.  A bird will lose it's life willingly to protect it's child.  Real mothers know these things.  As a baby you are extremely slow and uncoordinated.  You are weak.  You cannot provide food for yourself, you cannot even find the nipple that will feed you.  You need to be guided.  Nothing is more comforting than the warm breasts of your mother-- but besides that kind of nurturing you need to be guided in this realm or world.   You can't even learn to stop defecating (pooping) or urinating on your fleshy bottom without proper instruction. You can talk "smack" (foolish stuff) and forget who raised you up from all fours, but that's ego and cynicism talking.   Most of what you know (and don't know) comes from the guidance of your parents when you were young.  They taught you how to survive in this Western world of former Europeans.  If parents didn't care, all would be lost.  You  have needs and they cared, this is a most important aspect of love:  "If you can want, you can need; if you can need, you can care; if you can care you can love" (lyrics to Smokey William Robinson-- "If You Can Want).

   Many people lost their lives out of the love for our people.  They made sacrifices and inconvenienced themselves for what they thought would be right for us.  You may call them misguided or over-committed, but we still think about them to this day.  As Shabu used to say, "Make me not a martyr-- yet I still respect them all:  Dr. Martin Luther King, Malcolm X (Malik Al Hajj Shabazz), George Jackson, even John Lennon gave up their lives to make this world a better place for us.  Genius or misguided-- you make the call.


   You had a whole generation of the cultural element [singers, artists, playwrights, poets etc.] writing about love.  One of the biggest groups in world history, The Beatles, predicated their whole existence on that word; Love.  Sure, people (in the position) still stuck it too you in those days (out of hate), but there was more chances a person would give a kind gesture, in the hopes of being remembered, blessed or forgiven.

   Today, it is looked at as a liability.  Many relationships are merely arrangements and settling for what you can get out of such associations, not true love.   We can get elaborate about Hate and being hated upon in detail today.  We can identify haters and jealousy, but all that stems from distrust [suspicion, mistrust, possessiveness, doubt, spite, resentment, wariness, ill-will, dubiety ].  Do we really doubt each other like these definitions and synonyms suggest?  That is a lost of faith in humanity, G.  No wonder the Western world is looking more uncivilized, there is a breakdown in humanity.  In a civilized world, the old, women and children are protected.  In such worlds, care is provided for those who cannot take care of themselves.  In my locale in America-- there has been a rise in the victimization of the elderly-- DHS [Department of Human Services] itself, has been cited for neglect and several infractions of the sort concerning the elderly and mentally ill.  This represents a society's breakdown in humanity,  on the way to being an inhumane society.

   The cohesiveness [to hold together] of a society starts to fall apart when these things occur.  Things fall apart when there is a lack of care about your fellow man.  Those who cannot provide for themselves are lost.  Care and Faith in each other are a very important part in Love, Humanity and Civilization.  Another important thing about love and bringing about positive change is allowing yourself to be enthusiastic about the work that's being done and the future that is to come from what you are currently doing.  

IN THE FINAL ANALYSIS


   It is not good to love somebody, if somebody doesn't love you back.  There has been many transgressions and ills done to people in societies, at the hands of those who don't love themselves.  People with love in their hearts get no pleasure out of making other people suffer-- for example.  Love starts with care, so if you don't love yourself caring about others will be dysfunctional.  Trust, respect, reliability and responsibility are very necessary parts of love as well.  We have observed all of the synonyms which follows mistrust (19th paragraph), indicating the outlook of those who don't love themselves.  Simply put, these are things that will never change as long as they have not learned to love themselves.  If you can't love yourself, how can you love anyone else?  Most people think that the opposite of love is hatred.  This is not so.  Indifference is the opposite of love because indifference means you don't care.  When you don't care, you can do a lot of negative things to someone (3-1-14).  That means you have no sympathy or mercy.  And it is not caring for us, which allowed Whites to enslave Blacks: They dehumanized us.

   Though understanding is achieved through love, it is not totally what love is, but the result which love brings about: unity and understanding.  This comes about when you can see that we all come from one source and have a lot of the same needs.  When this is in the hearts of the people, that type of care and concern is the foundation of humanity and civilization (2-1-14).  Hatred is caused by what you don't understand, but you still care about them-- you just can't see why they won't change to see things your way-- but you still want them to do it.

   True Integration is when two dissimilar pieces are brought together with equal appreciation.  This is not what happens in America.  In America, we do what it takes in order to advance in a world constructed the way the dominant culture wants it.  Black, Brown, Red and Yellow people conform to the standards established by Whites-- the same as it is in Europe.  I am not condemning them for this, for it is their country, I am saying it is not integration-- it is people of higher pigmentation doing what it takes to survive in a White environment-- which is different to our native ways.

   It is amazing to me to see that among everything that was done in history, we still believe reasoning with the Western man to choose the right recourse to undertake concerning our equality within his society.  It should be painfully obvious that this society doesn't care about us.  The only reason the above people were able to institute as much social change as it did, is because all of the protest made the world take notice to what was happening in America, especially the non-violent acts orchestrated by Dr. Martin Luther King.  This made the country look shameful for trying to police the world, while exercising so much brutality right here in their own backyards.  This neutralized a lot of the methods exercised by the White Citizen's Council and the K.K.K. (but it didn't rid us of those sentiments).  Even today, we have legislation being pushed in Pennsylvania that voters are to now register at PENNDOT for voter ID, even though there's almost A ZERO PERCENT OF VOTER FRAUD demonstrated since the voter system has been instituted...  Could this be aimed towards the BLACK VOTE and PRESIDENT OBAMA'S RE-ELECTION?

   We obviously need to redirect our efforts towards fulfilling our own needs instead of reasoning with a society that produces these sort of reactions.  The only issue with this, is that we have to learn to love each other as a people more-- by desisting in the behavior-- like when we spend our money back in their communities, after we earned it in American society, while acting as though we are exercising an option.  There will be no economic help for our own businesses, unless we make it.  I have never seen Black Businesses flourish in White or mixed communities by the hands of other people other than black support (that is-- unless it is a shoe-shine business).  Recognise, there are no options.

  And as you carry out these acts, there must be joy.  You must enjoy the process of bringing about creating a better world.  There must be joy in helping your fellow man grow and participating in the community.  Ehthusiasm helps us to get up for adversity-- while giving us the ability to overcome it.  It is built within our soul: Learn to Love the Life you Live and Live the Life you Love.  You have to believe in what you doing and enjoy what you're doing.  That's what the Affection in Love is truly all about: smiles, confidence and encouragement that everything will be and turn out alright.  Not based on belief but on the knowledge that it was done before-- in the sixties.  Love consists of Care, Respect/Responsibility (sense of duty) Affection and Sensualism.  Affection means in this case to love the life you live and live the life you love. If you truly LOVE Yourself, you will not tolerate but so much HELL and wrong doing before you stand up in the name of what's RIGHT.

  Yes, as far as interrelations between your fellow man,  there is a difference between love, not so much in the Bed but, in how we are treated as a people.  This other part of Love is called Sensualism, a lower aspect of love.  Any of the other people of color will tell you that there is a difference between Black and White Love and Affection.  I have found with mixed couples, Whites often say that Blacks are more Affectionate.  And while that may be true, and Whites may enjoy that, the relationship itself seems to mean more than to the Black within those relationship than the relationship itself:  For the White, it might start off exotic and grow into deeper feelings, but for the Black it also represents a deceptive possibility to escape the hidden stigma and pain associated with being Black in a White dominated American Society.  To this end, many Blacks in these relationships, begin to conform more to White Society's ways, eventhough it usually isn't required by their White counterpart (and is usually subconsciously done by the Black) in hopes that all their dreams can come true:  Just like a lot of our conformity is subconsciously done at the workplace in order to survive...

   However, the act of Black males conforming to make the relationship work is certainly viewed differently than with Black females.  In those relationships the White female usually views the Black man's conformity as a sign of weakness and devalues him somewhat.*  Even though she might have even appreciated him more for not giving in...  The place where this is most evident is in how the children are raised: At best, the children of mixed couples are not taught to choose any one color but they will subconsciously choose White culture because there is less pain associated with it.  At worst they would also consider themselves White, something White society has never been accepting of and this most times causes dilemmas.  Black society has always accepted mulattoes more than White society.  But being accepted into White Society brings less pain-- so this creates other dilemmas.  But in almost all cases, the children's Black Cultural Heritage is abandoned.  However, the choice is theirs.

   Being Black in America is affiliated with too much pain.  We are the stone that the American builder refused.  We boost their economy and they barely give us recognition.  Whites called grown men boys back in the fifties and sixties.  This makes some of us, suck up to the society more, trying to convince those types of Whites-- while condemning those Blacks who weren't as naive or ignorant.  Some of these Blacks call themselves Brown to distinguish themselves from the body of Black people they come from-- but this is just indicative of so much self-hatred.  Many Whites hated the way Muhammad Ali spoke so confidently about himself and his ability.  His image and beginnings encouraged many Black boxers.  He is the single most reason that the pay purse went up in boxing.  Many Whites didn't like his "uppity attitude" and bet on others because of it.  Even some brainwashed Negroes wanted the same result, because they were raised that a Blackman should not be so "cocky" or confident.  Many wanted someone to whip Ali mercilessly (with so much hate directed at him this might be the single most cause of his affliction).  As in so many areas, we Blacks create monuments in the cultural arts. sports and entertainment and yet in American society it never gets the recognition it deserves.  That is because it is considered separately by American society.  There is Fine Arts and Black Fine Arts.  There is music and Black Music.  Only the Masons are free and accepted-- and even that is not equivalent to being White in America...

  This dilemma has driven many of us not to appreciate what is culturally ours and has psychologically damaged many of Black spirits along the way within American society.  I'm Black and I'm proud was the cry of the Black Power Movement:  Those Love warriors of the sixties.  Before that, our own people would fight you if you called them black!  Those of us who loved their own people had to work hard against the psychological damage America had indoctrinated us with-- the problem was most of us believed it.  Many of our people called themselves "colored."  Colored means something which is tainted; "as in adding color to."  What an ignorant term for us.  So much self-hatred!  No question, many of our people turn to drugs to relieve the pain of being Black in America-- but we must rise above it.

  And because of this, it is no wonder that Blacks who really believe that they are truly American citizens would have self-esteem issues.  Without a strong economic base, we are forced to seek economic provisions elsewhere.  We begin to cultivate our children to "aim to please." not only for economic survival, but almost as though we believe we are inferior to Whites!  What a brain washing!  If a Blackman opens up a business in a mixed community, will others patronize it?  Blacks who think like this certainly won't.  Many will be trying to get the store owner to give them stuff because they think he is better off than him.  This rejection has even got us blaming each other for the conditions of the Blackman in America.  The only blame we have is if we won't do things to change it. 

   The first thing on the list of learning to love ourselves is care.  If you don't care about yourself more, you will allow all kinds of things to happen.  You will let anyone do anything to you, because you don't think highly enough for yourself.  When you have a healthy self-esteem, you will not tolerate but so much ill treatment before you move on-- because you know you deserve better.  I have heard Blacks say many times. "They don't teach us enough of what Blacks have done in schools."  My response is, "That's because you don't own it."  If you did, then it would have in it the things which are important to you."  So why wait on them?  It starts out with your own self esteem, respect and manly [and womanly pride].  Our women have to learn to respect and support our leadership more when we are doing the right thing for our people.  Love his love for us as people because you are included in that.  If he stumbles, help him up for he is the promise of the future for our babies: Not this polarization which is cankerous-ly destroying our community.

   It is the Love of Self that will help us rise above the HELLISH conditions in America, simply because we know better.  By knowing better, I am saying you know what's RIGHT (appropriate).  And if you don't, then you NEED PROPER EDUCATION.  Go Back and Read The Truth plastered all over my previous articles!  If you had rough beginnings, the blessing will be that you will appreciate the good start you're making even more.  If you have family issues, it will force better research out of you-- that is, if you don't throw pity parties and wallow in the mud.

   Another reason why we have to learn to appreciate our culture more, is because it does us no good to cultivate cultural values in American society that does not accept us.  Take a look around you, most of the Chinese people in this country work for Chinese.  They know that it is harder to get the White Americans to accept them-- they were here during the cowboy days working on the railroad!   Most Indians work for companies they established, as do most Asians.  This is a capitalist society, the only thing they respect is economic power and that means a group of people who have established economic provisions to take care of themselves.  People who do not establish this are considered little more than beggars to Capitalists.

   Alright, party people, time to roll up your sleeves and achieve what you were meant to be.  Don't Hate-- Appreciate-- make proper assessments and realize you can do it too.  All of this starts with a new attitude.  You have to expect more from yourself.  One that processes what's been learned and incorporates these things into the futureWhen you Love yourself, you can endure through this Hell until you make it Right.  Determination and commitment.  That's what our ancestors shown.  We would still be slaves if not for them and proper education from God.  Man and woman are the foundation of culture and civilization.  Sure, there's been bad childhoods.  Bad parents too.  Life doesn't come with instruction books for parent or child-- we either learn from others to correct the errors or make it up as we go along and learn through trial.  A change in attitude and commitment to proper ideas, is all we need to rise above all this.  It may be a little difficult at the beginning, but what are you going to do?  Be an old man/ woman  full of regrets-- hating on others who did what you should have done?  It's up to you.  Make your own help-- you're the one who needs it! 
   Sure, it take very little effort to speak on what's gone wrong, but it takes exceptional people to correct it.  This is your life, not a game that you play.  If you had a bad beginning, you have two options-- be miserable and full of regret or find out how to straighten it out-- it's up to you.  You should expect more out of life.  After all, its yours and the only one you'll get!  Start with finding a female with similar ideas surrounding life and gripping her up.  An individual is two which cannot be separated (indivisible-dual).  So, lock it down.  These opportunities are rare in life, no matter what those fools say.  Once you find her, never let her go, have babies and raise them on the things that you both know and agree with.  Love brings forth understanding and culture comes from applying that knowledge obtained through that clear mental picture.  That's how you begin to change things.  That's how you begin to make the world we want to live in.  The rest we can teach each other, if we respect one another...  It starts with a love of your self, love of your man or your woman and your people-- reaching out into humanity.


Love, Peace and Happiness,





C. Be'erla Hai-roi Myers

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  1. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Very moving and encouraging build.

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    1. I humble myself before those who can receive and utilize these words for their everyday life, towards building a better Self image and improvement of us collectively.

      I am because We are,

      C. Be'erla Hai-roi Myers

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